I am pleased to present another guest poast by our good friend, The Male Brain. This one is a bit different from the general tone and trend of posts on the site for the last few months, and focuses on how to manage relationships with women in a way that might strike some of you as a bit unpleasant. Nor does my publication of the post imply that I necessarily or by definition agree with all or part of its contents. Nonetheless, I think there are some useful ideas involved here, particularly around maintaining a masculine frame, and around recognising the value of yourself and others.

Many thanks as always to our friend for his valuable contributions to the site.

Introduction

Orion Taraban, our new favourite psychologist stated the following in that video:

Whether it lasts for an evening for a lifetime, all relationships progress through three distinct phases: attraction, negotiation, and maintenance. However, it’s wrong to believe that these phases have distinct boundaries between them. In point of fact, a phase is never terminated once it has been initiated in the course of a relationship. This means that much of the third phase is devoted to maintaining attraction and managing frame.

The relationship needs to start; I assume that you have successfully attracted her and got her to bed – more than once. Let’s say that you are now transferring from STR (Short Term Relationship) to an LTR (Long Term Relationship). Or, as Dr. Taraban calls it, “Negotiation” and “Maintenance” phases.

The best advice I can give you is “MAKE HER CRY”.

Definitions and Benefits

It’s not the obvious “hit her until she cries”. That might be abuse and is not good for the healthy type of relationship we stand for. Spanking is good and I encourage you to do it. I often quote the Eurythmics in their greatest song Sweet Dreams:

Some of them want to use you
Some of them want to get used by you
Some of them want to abuse you
Some of them want to be abused

That does not mean that we want to be with such people (Those who want to be abused) – for the long term.

Making her CRY means when you are in bed with her you encourage her to emote and release her feelings, especially during orgasm. In a few times (you will need to push for it), you can show her the benefits of it for her:

1. The climax will be way intensive.
2. She will feel more satisfied.
3. She will be far more relaxed afterwards

The benefits for you are far greater. That is (and I insist on it) if you make her cry every time:

1. Sense of power over her (I have yet to encounter a man who disapprove of having power, in a good way, over his partner).
2. She will be far willing to have sex (because of the emotional experience).
3. Less shit testing.
4. Upper hand in fights as she now needs you more.

I can’t state enough how important this last point is – females tend to leave the relationship way more than males (70-80% of the breakups are initiated by the females). I have been in multiple “fights” and I know that she won’t break up with me (most of the time). You may now conduct your relationship more to your satisfaction.

Classic win-win. Both sides enjoy a higher quality of relationship.

How-To

It took me a while to find it out. Basically, following CH’s maxim IX and XIV:

IX. Connect with her emotions

Set yourself apart from other men and connect with a woman’s emotional landscape. Her mind is an alien world that requires deft navigation to reach your rendezvous…

XIV. Fuck her good

Fuck her like it’s your last fuck. And hers. Fuck her so good, so hard, so wantonly, so profligately that she is left a quivering, sparking mass of shaking flesh and sex fluids. Drain her of everything, then drain her some more.

To drain her “of everything” – you need to drain her emotionally. People who emote hard, are left weak and require physical recovery. I’ve seen girls go to sleep for 2 hours during the day after such an experience. But in order to do so you need navigate her emotional landscape and take her with you.

As stated above – this will set you apart from everyone else. If for some reason you do break up – she will become an Alpha widow. Those tend to come back (can confirm).

You need to start by encouraging her to emote. This happens only after there is some reassurance and security in the relationship. Say 2–3 months in. Also – she must orgasm almost (or at least more than 90% of the times).

Tell her that she has such strong and beautiful feelings, and she should let it out (in bed). Do it softly and gently before bed and sometimes during the act. If she is following your lead (as she should) in the relationship, she will try to do as you tell her. If she isn’t following – tell her that she is so beautiful when she is radiating emotions. This isn’t BS – you can actually feel the difference.

There might be objections, and the most common is that it becomes too intense. She’ll say that she can’t breathe, and she is overflowing with emotions.

For that you need to give her time and encourage her saying that intense emotions make it even better (true and I can testify). Another objection that sometimes it is not “natural” (read “I’m not use to it”) to release the emotions. It might take some time to practice, but with the girls I have been and used it – it’s pretty quick (2-4 times).

Conclusion

Ultimately, the goal is to create a space in bed where she feels safe to express her emotions. By encouraging her to embrace her feelings, you not only enhance intimacy but also foster a deeper connection and you get to have the upper hand in the relationship. Remember, when she is willing to explore her emotional landscapes together with you and you lead, it becomes a more fulfilling and satisfying bond. In doing so, you’ll cultivate a relationship that is not only passionate but also resilient and enriching for both of you.