The story of Tomi Lahren’s epic Instagram meltdown about how “lots of men are trash” has lit up the Hard Right with lots of great, and highly acerbic, commentary. We start with a couple of videos from Joker of Better Bachelor, who broke it all down for us:

Dawn Pine wrote in as well about this lady – he came across the story through a different video:

For a woman’s perspective on the situation, we turn to a happily married wife and mother of 3 from Nawlins:

And of course there is Terrence Popp’s hilariously profane, and quite lengthy, dismembering of Tomi’s rant, which I put into the latest Mondaydact Browser Crusher:

Heck, Roosh got in on the dogpile too:

I wish Tomi had a spiritual elder that could tell her she’s merely attracting the male version of herself, and that the value she perceives to have is opposed to securing the type of man she thinks she wants. I look at the type of woman I attracted during my pickup days and compare them to the women I have corresponded with since turning to Christ—they are a world apart. I forgot what it’s like to have wild interactions with women with accompanying tension, disappointment, and anxiety that follows acts of illicit fornication.

If Tomi asked me for advice, I would tell her to repent and declare Jesus Christ as her Lord and Savior, not with memes posted to her Instagram but with the entirety of her heart. I would tell her to quit her job and remove herself from the hell-pit of career, fame, and money. I would tell her to stop dating and beg God to reveal a path forward that will save her soul and provide a family through which she honors God. Good can only come from God, but that means putting Him first, a hard decision for a woman who Satan is actively tempting with fame and riches of the world.

Christ clearly teaches us the kind of life we must lead while in servitude to Him, and until we embark on that path, we will encounter needless sufferings that redirect the hatred we have of ourselves due to our misconduct to those around us. If Tomi embarks on a righteous path, she will soon be able to recognize a different type of man, a man of the faith who does not excite her emotions but pleases her soul, because it’s through this man that she will serve God and not the world. May God bless her on that journey.

They are all basically correct. Most of the commentary coming at Tomi Lahren is all about how ridiculous and over-the-top her criticism is, and that is absolutely true. Her criticisms are nonsense. She is projecting her own insecurities and anger and failures onto all men, blaming them for things that are her fault and hers alone.

My view on the whole situation is that Tomi Lahren is a tradthot doing what tradthots do.

This may require some explanation. By way of background, take a look at a post that I wrote about tradthots all the way back in December of 2017:

The dangers of tradthots simply cannot be overestimated. The Hard Right started up as a reaction to the destruction of Western civilisation and the complete degeneration of the Sexual and Marriage Market Places that are a symptom of the cancer that is eating away at the West’s most vital institutions. As a result, the Hard Right presents a highly attractive and highly viable alternative philosophy to men who are fed up of being shat on by women and society at large, because the Alt-West gives lost and struggling men a path out of their current misery.

Many such men have tried dating Western women. The experience of doing so has proven to be a real ordeal. (I’ve done it. I know what it’s like. It’s horrid.) As such, they are highly receptive to the “good, chaste, traditional woman” who comes along and says all of the right things in all of the right ways.

That is where the danger lies, and this is where tradthots come in and make their presence felt.

In the modern day and age of internet media and fame, any young woman can flounce in, claim to be a “good traditional woman”, and be taken seriously. A pretty face, a nice voice, some strategically displayed cleavage, and a good outfit, combined with a proper sense of lighting, can easily make all but the most strident feminist ho look like housewife material.

It isn’t even that difficult to troll the hell out of thirsty men by pretending to be an old-fashioned traditional woman. Matt Forney did precisely that a few years ago, with devastating effect.

And unfortunately, far too many men fall for their lines about wanting to return to the good old days when men were men who looked after and protected and provided for their women. Left unsaid is the fact that those women were supposed to act like women too- there is a bargain involved, a mutual exchange, that tradthots at best paper over.

As far as I can tell, Tomi Lahren followed the exact same pattern that so many tradthots do. She came in, looking really hot and peppy and bouncy, in all of the right ways, in tight skirts and heels with platinum-blonde hair and great makeup, to tell thirsty guys on the Right exactly what they wanted and NEEDED to hear from a woman’s mouth about how stupid feminism is and how Western civilisation is worth defending.

The problem always was that Ms Lahren’s actions never matched her words.

Tradthots are notorious for this. It is their defining characteristic. They are hypocrites, massive ones.

They constantly proclaim how important it is to have traditional families and get married and have children – but they remain single and ride the carousel for as long as they can themselves. They always go on and on about how feminism is poisonous and toxic and dangerous – while taking on feminist positions themselves and seeking out fame and fortune through secular careers. They make all of the right noises about how great it is to have a strong national culture with real borders and controlled immigration – but can never bring themselves to confront the realities of race, gender, culture, language, history, and religion that define a nation.

Now this is where charges of hypocrisy can be laid at my feet. I make no attempt whatsoever to defend myself against them. You are most welcome to regard me as a flagrant hypocrite if you see fit. I am certainly guilty of telling men to get married, have children, build strong families, bend the knee to Jesus Christ, and defend their nations. Yet I myself am in my mid-thirties, unmarried and childless, and my sins are well known to the Lord.

The difference between me and a tradthot – quite apart from the obvious ones, such as the fact that I’m not blonde, or a woman, at least not last time I checked – is that I make no representation whatsoever of virtue or morality. As I stated very bluntly in Sunday’s podcast, nobody in his right mind should ever consider me a role model or worthy of following.

And that is the fundamental issue with tradthots that makes them truly dangerous. They are essentially agents of subversion who live lies without ever admitting to it.

It would be one thing if they acted like Ann Coulter, whose flip-flops on politics are well known and severely problematic, and whose personal life is something of a train wreck, but who is at least honest about it on the rare occasions that she discusses such things in public. Ms Coulter has stated openly on her Twitter feed that childless women like her face a terrible future of growing old in loneliness and misery, and she accepts that fate because she knows that she simply does not have the necessary warmth and care and stability necessary to be a good mother.

It is quite another when they act like Tomi Lahren, who spins a good line about being a successful and happy and empowered woman, but then puts the blame for her romantic failures upon men.

Listening to her ranting, it is very clear that her words come from a place of great pain. Yet the funny thing is that SHE called off her engagement to the rich dude that proposed to her with a HUGELY expensive ring, evidently because she thought that she could do better in the open dating market.

This, remember, is a man who bought her a $50,000 DIAMOND ENGAGEMENT RING.

I’ve seen a few massive sparklers in my time – including a $14K ring with like 7 diamond studs in it that was actually selling for a 62% discount at about $5.4K – but $50K for a ring, on a woman aged 27, or 28 now, with more than a few past boyfriends? I don’t THINK so.

I mean, if she looked like THIS and was 22, maybe:

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But then, that’s Kseniya Tsaritsina, married to a billionaire, who bought her a ring worth $7 MILLION. And she’s Russian, to boot, so who knows – maybe it was a good trade, maybe not. All I know is that the billionaire in question married the woman after she’d already given him two kids and been faithful to him since her early twenties.

In Tomi Lahren’s case, though, her former fiance was paying full price for a used convertible with a lot of mileage on it, and that just isn’t a good trade, especially when the model in question has a history of dubious emissions.

Like many of the commentators on Ms Lahren’s rant, I can’t help but feel sorry for her, a little bit. She has obviously been very unlucky in all of her romantic efforts, and that has clearly left her in a place of pain and suffering. She is reacting by lashing out at everyone and everything that she thinks has put her there.

In fact, she is at fault, and the sooner that she embraces that fact, the better off she will be.

I addressed this exact point in my podcast. As I stated very bluntly, the secret to true happiness in your life lies in accepting that everything in it that is not EXACTLY the way YOU want it to be, is YOUR FAULT.

The moment that you accept this, you accept responsibility and authority for fixing the problem. Then you can go and fix it, and enjoy the benefits of doing so.

But if you refuse to accept this responsibility and remain in denial about your own rights and responsibilities, then you will continue to make the same mistakes that put you deep in the hole that you’re in right now.

That is the lesson that Tomi Lahren desperately needs to learn, right now. She needs to understand that SHE is the problem, not the men around her.

She needs to realise that she is the one who needs to bring value to the table. The men that she dates are already pre-selected by virtue of the social circles that she runs in – they will almost without exception be wealthy, handsome, successful, and well-groomed. From a red-pill perspective, she is not the prize – THEY are.

And she needs to understand, desperately and quickly, that a woman DOES NOT age well. Her value is in her looks, beauty, youth, and fertility, and she loses those things over time very quickly. Unless she is genuinely a remarkable intellect with immense writing talent, like Ann Coulter, she will discover within a few years that nobody gives a crap what she has to say about anything political once her looks go.

Rollo and others have pointed out an iron law of biology: men gain value slowly through time and the more valuable we become, the less interested we are in spending that capital on women who simply aren’t worth the headache.

Tomi Lahren certainly is not worth that headache. As Roosh says, perhaps a little too stridently and in far too preachy a fashion, but nonetheless correctly, she needs to get right with God, get her head put back on straight, abandon her secular positions about abortion and other follies that are mortally offensive to the Lord, and look inside of herself at her own flaws and failures.

Only then will she realise that she has been chasing the tingles, the FEELZ, the excitement, rather than the often boring but fulfilling stability and decency of men who can actually make her happy.

And only then can she realise that her career and achievements are massive turn-offs for men, not benefits.

The reason she keeps chasing high-value men, who want nothing to do with her, is because she isn’t worth their time. She just isn’t. She is wealthy herself and has a high-flying career, but she brings with all of that a bitchiness and unpleasant character that no high-value man worth his money would want to be around. Why would he, when he can get on a plane (quite probably a private jet) to Mexico or Colombia or Ukraine or Russia or Thailand to be around women who are FAR more beautiful and much more feminine and don’t have annoying nasal SoCal Commiefornian accents?

In conclusion, Tomi Lahren is a living, breathing illustration of the dangers of tradthottery. Any woman who claims to “love the tradlife”, while embracing the perks and thrills of a high-flying career, is at best a colossal hypocrite and at worst a seriously dangerous malign influence in the Hard Right.

That is not to say that such women are beyond saving. Lauren Southern, the poster-girl for tradthots everywhere for quite some time, has gotten married and has a child now. That’s wonderful news. We’ll see whether she does anything good as a result of her life changes. But Ms Lahren evidently has a long way to go before she sees the light and stops with her Tomi-foolery.