Dave from Blue Collar Logic offers up some cogent and powerful thoughts on the MGTOW movement, which are very much worth reading through in full:
Dave there has far more reason than most to subscribe to the MGTOW movement – which he doesn’t.
He has been divorce-raped himself. He has lost much of what he once had. He lives in a mobile home, barely scraping by with what little income one gets from a YouTube channel that keeps getting its videos demonetised by the (((assholes))) who hate what he has to say.
If anyone should go MGTOW, it’s Dave.
But he doesn’t.
Because he recognises that MGTOW is a philosophy of abject surrender.
I have written extensively on the subject of MGTOW in the past. As I have stated a number of times before, unlike a lot of members of the Hard Right, I do have quite a bit of empathy and sympathy for those men who, like Dave, trusted in the system and were profoundly broken by the experience.
There are plenty of MGTOW types who did what was expected of them by the wider society that they lived in. They worked hard. They went to college. They got good degrees. They worked in well-paying jobs. They wifed up the first good woman that they could find and love, or at least tolerate. They had children and raised them as best as they knew how.
But they got screwed over, every single time.
Their employers outsourced their jobs and cut them loose without so much as even a sympathetic handshake. Their wives blimped out and became utter hambeasts, devoid of femininity and desirable qualities. Their children were brainwashed by the globohomo cult.
They tried. They really did. And they lost, very nearly everything, to the evil that rules this world.
I sympathise deeply with these men. I have endured some of the same travails myself.
The problem with such men, however, lies in the fact that they spread the sweet poison of surrender to all around them. They claim that it simply is not fair that women are to be chased and men must do the chasing. They argue that women should do their fair share as well, and don’t. And they emphasise the fact that modern society is stacked against men in every possible way.
Their answer to these problems is not to fight back. It is not to take gamble, take risks, and play the game in the hopes of winning it.
Their answer is to check out of the game entirely.
Dave provides some much-needed common sense antidotes to such despair. As he points out, and as I have said before, surrender simply is not a strategy.
Have you ever read The Art of the Deal, one of the books co-authored by His Most Illustrious, Noble, August, Benevolent, and Legendary Celestial Majesty, the God-Emperor of Mankind, Donaldus Triumphus Magnus, the First of His Name? I am reading it right now – it’s been sitting in my reading list for a couple of years now and it’s high time I got around to fixing that particular problem.
In it, the Chaddest of Chads ever to Chad across a stage writes one very simple and profound truth:
Take care of the downside risk, and everything else will sort itself out.
MGTOW types complain endlessly about how the odds of getting a divorce are well over 50% and the chances of getting your ass divorce-raped in court are astronomically high these days. And a superficial reading of the statistics would certainly bear this out.
However, look a bit deeper into those statistics and you will quickly realise that there are a number of serious problems with such a simplistic aggregate analysis.
If you actually look at marriages between people who share similar family backgrounds, educations, religious beliefs, political alignments, and racial characteristics, then the odds of divorce plummet. If you are careful and measured in your assessment of a woman’s downside risk, your odds of divorce aren’t 50% – they are closer to 10%.
Unfortunately, most men do not make this assessment before they get married. Nor do they realise that they, too, have a vitally important part to play in marriage. They forget quite often that as men they are expected to be the head of the house – which is to say, the leader. And being a leader does not mean issuing orders and expecting them to be followed. Being a leader requires providing an example for others to follow.
As Dave points out, his ex-wife bloated up after she gave birth to their children, and never slimmed back down. That was the poison of feminism that flooded her brain and made her fat and lazy, to be sure. And Dave’s story is common enough among modern American families.
But there is another aspect to that story.
Modern American men don’t do enough hard work to keep themselves in shape. Obesity is skyrocketing among the American population, in no small part because men simply refuse to step up and put the damn Twinkie down, get in shape, lift some weights, go for a walk, and make themselves desirable.
If a woman is with a man who makes no effort to seduce her, does not try to improve the quality of his appearance and body, and simply gives up trying to attract his wife… why should she then make any effort to attract him?
And if a man will not have robust, regular, satisfying sex with his wife, then why should she keep herself in good shape at all?
The MGTOW types get one side of the equation roughly right. They argue that women are the problem and that men should simply stop trying to solve that problem, as the quality of the solution is very poor.
But the other half of the equation is missed entirely.
Men have our own role to play in making relationships and marriages work. Men are the natural leaders and creators and builders of societies and civilisations. Without men, order and civility crumble and are replaced with chaos and barbarity. And the people who are always hurt the most in the event of such a collapse are women.
The only way for men to win at the game is to take a shot and try it in the first place. Checking out of the game is simply not an answer.
By checking out and refusing to take part, the MGTOW types spread an attitude of defeat and misery among the very troops that we need in order to win the fight for Western civilisation. Those same young men are currently retreating into vidyagamesnporn, which are deeply destructive to a man’s psyche, his desire to procreate and build for the future, and his masculine energy and vitality.
Those young men do not need to be told constantly to check out and avoid responsibility. They need positive masculine role models to follow, and institutions that support them in their journeys of self-discovery.
These days, thanks to the power of the Internet, we have precisely such an institution. We have the Manosphere, and within its labyrinthine corridors, a young man can find everything that he could possibly want or need in order to set himself on the path to self-improvement, knowledge, wisdom, temperance, and inner as well as outer strength.
When harnessed and put to productive use, the masculine energies that every young man carries inside of himself can level mountains, crush boulders, tame seas, build cities, paint and sculpt and carve magnificent works of art, compose soaring and uplifting symphonies, and create monuments to Man’s ingenuity that will last for centuries.
When let loose and turned to destructive ends, without any form of temperance or control or guidance, those same masculine energies turn to rapine and pillaging, suicide bombings and mass shootings, enslavement and abuse of the weak and fearful, and tearing down civilisation.
But when it is not developed at all… what then does a man become, but a useless, joyless, lumpen waste of flesh and bone?
It is worth pointing out that faith is a powerful motivator for a young man to turn away from the philosophy of surrender and toward productive ends. The redeeming power of the Lord is a remarkable thing indeed. The fruits of the Holy Spirit are such that men who have been touched by its grace and beauty are capable of turning away from sin wholesale, simply because they find its presence unbearable.
Such men have been known to simply stop watching porn overnight; stop wasting time on endless and pointless alternate video game realities and start engaging with the real world; stop masturbating endlessly; even stop drinking and smoking or swearing, cold turkey. And all of that is because their spirits become united with something far greater, more powerful, and more pure than they can even imagine – yet they feel its power nonetheless.
Those of you who have been around for a while will recognise how my own writing has been thus affected. Look back about six years and you will find articles that I wrote in which I pointed out what a terrible idea marriage is and why only a fool would get married these days. Fast forward to the modern day, and you’ll see me advocating strongly for traditional marriage between one man and one woman, because that is the only kind that makes sense.
What gives? What made me change from someone who had kind of checked out myself, to someone who is looking to get back into the game and win it?
Simple. As Dave points out in his video, the only way to win is to play in the first place. And only losers give up playing before the very first die is cast.
In fact, that shows us the true tragedy of the MGTOW movement.
By preaching surrender and retreat, the MGTOW types are actually arguing for men to waste away their potential. The young men who check out of modern society completely are precisely the ones who could change it for the better, and thereby fulfill their own vast human potential in the process.
But they don’t do it. They waste their lives and themselves.
And that, my friends, is truly tragic.