Roosh V just announced that he will be removing from circulation his famous “Bang” guides, in which he breaks down his precise, scientifically informed methods for meeting, dating, and having casual sex with girls as fast and as efficiently as possible:
This action coincides with my decision to forbid casual sex discussion on my forum, though not discussion of other game mechanics like meeting women and dating. I will share more about these decisions in the future, but as of now I’ll say that I can no longer be a central node that men use to commit morally questionable acts. In other words, I don’t want my work to be actively used to lead men into sin or to enable them to commit it, and while it’s true that “evil” can lead to good, as it did in my case, though at excruciating cost, I don’t want to directly aid men in evil pursuits. If you’re not a believer, it is unlikely you will understand the nature of these decisions and similar ones that will come in the future.
Another change I’ve made on my web store is that I don’t entice you with juicy upsell offers that include books which teach fornication if the book you’re buying is not of that topic. For example, in the past, if you wanted to buy a book like A Dead Bat In Paraguay, I would show you an upsell offer that included all of my fornication guides, but now the offer includes only two other memoirs.
For now, I’ve decided not to unpublish Game because of the large percentage of men who are using it in relationships and for marriages, in spite of the fact that it does contain fornication advice. Instead, I edited the sales page to tone down the sexual benefits that could be received from it.
I have not unpublished my two pornographic memoirs, 30 Bangs and Poosy Paradise, because they reveal the truth of my past and serve as a warning that sexual obsession is not the correct path. Along the same lines, I also have not unpublished The Best Of Roosh Volume 1. These three books are more embarrassing to me than harmful to others, though I may change my mind about them in the future. As for the eleven books I did unpublish, I find that they have no redeeming value. That leaves a total of nine books remaining available for sale.
He has been taking huge amounts of “friendly fire” from a wide range of men for making this announcement. Some of his strongest critics these days, were his strongest supporters and backers for many years.
I have to say that this is rather sad to see. But it is actually pretty much inevitable. That is what happens when you take your own personal insecurities and problems, come to the wrong conclusions about where those problems come from, and then project an idealised version of yourself onto another man who appears to be doing exactly what you want to do with your life.
It is important to understand who Roosh really is, and why he has turned away from a hedonistic lifestyle and toward a much more spiritually awakened one.
Daryush Valizadeh is a man whom I do not know personally, but am proud and honoured to call an ally. He is not a friend, simply because I have rarely interacted with him and never on anything more than a professional basis. But my few interactions with him have shown him to be a man of honourable character and considerable personal integrity, who is owned by no one.
His writing and especially his lifestyle is not everyone’s cup of tea. It certainly isn’t mine, which is why, although I respected Roosh greatly – and actually respect him even more nowadays – I never really wanted to emulate him.
But plenty of other men did, because they came from similar backgrounds to Roosh himself.
Roosh is a product of a broken home. He is of Middle Eastern ethnicity. If you’ve ever heard him speak, you will notice that he has a rather high-pitched and slightly reedy voice. By his own admission, in his youth he was your stereotypical spaghetti-armed limp-wristed nerd with virtually zero appeal to women.
Sound familiar yet?
This is the exact same boat that so many young men find themselves in. Unlike most of those “low-status lobsters” (to blatantly steal a phrase from an actual fraud and intellectual charlatan), Roosh decided to fix his problems.
But he had an even bigger issue: back when he was getting started, information about masculine self-improvement and development was hard to come by and put together.
So he figured it out for himself, and set about educating other men.
He went to Eastern Europe, traveled (and fornicated) his way across the region, and visited many different countries. He created a simple, comfortable, independent lifestyle for himself, financed by his writings and blog advertising as well as his business ventures. He traveled through Western Europe as well, and narrated a series of cautionary tales about the women of Denmark and Iceland. And at some point he turned to South America and attempted to take his hard-won lessons and put them to use there – and failed, repeatedly.
He learned from those failures. He learned that failure and pain is necessary for self-improvement and growth. And he taught us all something in the process.
Roosh has been a tireless advocate of masculine self-improvement for the better part of 15 years, and he has helped countless men around the world improve their lives. While his focus might initially have been on getting laid as fast and as easily as possible, back in the early days of the mid-2000s, that emphasis saw subtle but clear shifts over time as he began to take strong stands in the culture wars and started creating platforms designed to give red-pilled men from around the world a community and a voice.
His main website has showed the evolution of his thinking over many years, and you can see the changes in tone and style over those years. He started out as your typically angry nerd, tired of getting screwed over by the world while unable to do any of the screwing, and decided to embark on an epic journey of self-improvement. As his skills improved, his knowledge of the world expanded, and his interactions with women became ever more successful, he came to realise that there is more to life than simply fornicating for the sake of it.
It was Roosh who established Return of Kings, now sadly gone on hiatus, which was for a time one of the edgier and more interesting men’s websites out there. I never fully agreed with all of the content that I saw on there, but there was, and still is, a lot of really great writing there which is highly instructive to men of all walks of life. As Roosh grew and matured over the years, so too did the content of RoK, which shifted from a purely game-based pickup site to a masculine interests portal and came to be a home for the writings of a number of strong Christian men.
Roosh ultimately worked to tell the truth – and discovered in the process that telling the truth comes at a terrible price.
When he tried to launch his first speaking tour, in which all he planned to do was meet up with a few guys at a time in a bunch of different cities to talk, shoot the breeze, and have a few drinks in good solid masculine company, the SJWs and their allies in the whorenalist class went absolutely berserk and tried to hound him out of the public eye for good.
They failed, completely and totally, because he confronted them and took them on face-to-face, but he discovered, very much the hard way, the price that a free man has to pay in order to tell the truth. Slaves don’t get to tell the truth – they are slaves for a reason. But free men have a choice – to tell the truth, no matter what the cost, and possibly die on their feet, or to accept and live with lies, and thereby be condemned to the certainty of living on their knees.
Roosh chose to stand, and for that he was, and is, hated, mocked, reviled, deplatformed, shunned, and slandered.
And all that he has done – all that he has ever tried to do – is to learn the truth.
Evidently, in the process, he has walked the hard path from truth to TRUTH – the Truth, the Way, and the Life. We shall see whether he makes the same leap that I did, and embraces the Faith, with all of its acceptance of evil, pain, and suffering, and its very hard and often unforgiving moral teachings. And we shall see whether he will do a better job of it, given his background and past experience, than I have done.
(That is not a difficult bar to clear, by any means. I am not a good person. I simply try to be – and fail miserably and thoroughly most of the time.)
I hope and pray that Roosh’s journey toward Truth will be quicker than mine was. It took me twenty years to go from being an atheist to a Christian – and a very bad example of one, at that. Roosh’s journey was undoubtedly painful, treacherous, and filled with disappointments along the way.
I also have no doubt that the brokenness and misery that he felt after the death of his beloved sister had a big influence on his desire to move toward a more spiritual, faith-based way of life. One thing that I have learned through becoming a Christian is that you have to be truly and thoroughly broken in order to accept the very hard message of Christ Jesus.
But, here is the remarkable thing: the Lord uses broken men all the time, to do the work that only He can do.
And you have to be seriously broken to go chasing after women for the better part of 15 years, fornicating your way through a dozen or more countries, going through one relationship after another, and finally just getting sick and tired of chasing pussy and yearning for the happiness that so many men have with just one woman.
It is a horrible thing to realise in the depths of your soul that you will almost certainly never be happy with just one woman – because you know, as a red-pilled truth, that “The One” just doesn’t exist, and you know that your built-in male biological urge to spread your seed as far and as wide as you can, is in direct conflict with your equally built-in male psychological urge to find comfort, gain stability, and put down roots in order to raise children in a happy and safe environment.
That is where Roosh is these days, based on his own words. He knows damned well that he is likely to die alone because of all of his experience with women, which has made him extremely jaded and incapable of idealising any one woman. And he knows that any partner that he ends up with – if he finds one – is going to have a very hard time accepting his past and his notoriety for a long-term relationship. In the past he has made it clear that he views traditional marriage as a non-starter, in part because of his own experiences with his parents.
And yet… here he is, seeking a spiritual life, turning his back on his past as a fornicator, letting go of hedonism, and trying hard to be a better man.
That picture up top is of the famous scene in Gospels concerning Jesus and the adulterous woman, and I chose it for a very, very good reason. Now, in my English Standard Version translation of the Holy Bible, it states very clearly that “THE EARLIEST MANUSCRIPTS DO NOT INCLUDE JOHN 7:53-8:11”. So, the canonicity of the story of the adulterous woman has been a subject of much debate and scholarly discussion for some 2,000 years as a result.
The point of the story is to show that anyone who has committed great sins in the past, can still be forgiven, and can still try to redeem herself, or himself, as the case may be.
Roosh’s sins are his own. He admits them. He is trying to atone for them. He is attempting to become a better man in the eyes of God – not in the eyes of men. And men hate him for that.
Let them.
I cannot and do not condemn Roosh for fornication. I’ve committed that sin myself. Most of the boys – they are by and large not men – who are heaping scorn upon his head have done the same, and want to do the same again.
Instead, I welcome Roosh and support him as he enters a very different world from the one that he is used to, and wish him only good fortune and happiness in all of his future endeavours, as an ally and – I hope – future brother in Christ.
The judgement of men is not Roosh’s concern, and nor should it be. But the judgement of God is a fearful and terrible thing indeed, and it is to Roosh’s great credit that he has woken up to it and has decided to try to change his ways.
Roosh is the elder brother that many of us should have had, but never did. He has shown the way for thousands of young men to improve and better their lives. But his approach was always missing the spiritual aspect of self-improvement, without which any attempts to improve oneself are eventually doomed to stagnation and failure.
I, for one, expect Roosh to see vast improvements in his life, mental happiness, and personal sense of satisfaction over the coming months and years. And when he finally decides to bend the knee before the Lord and accept Christ, he will know what it means to see the Truth, in all of its terrible glory.
The search for truths has led him, slowly, painfully, and surely, to the Truth, as it always does to those who pay attention.
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I used to wonder how a civilized country could let Roosh go unhanged. But, ya know, if he's turning over a new leaf, rejecting sin…well…I was a fucking rotter were women were concerned, too, when I was a young man, so perhaps divine grace can salvage Roosh, as well.