FailBlog is generally not a good place for what one might consider Red Pill truths, but yesterday I found a bit of an exception. That flow chart basically explains, from a frustrated BETA’s point of view, how the Friendzone works. And having experienced this exact sequence of events, like most guys, I find myself asking yet again: “how the f*** did I not know about this stuff 10 years ago?!?!?”

The good thing about taking the Red Pill is that it allows you to confront the world as you always should have done- on your own terms, as a man. It’s a long, and often painful, learning process. Lord knows, I’ve got a long way to go. The key thing is, though, that it lets you break out of the cycle noted above. It gives you the tools and the skills needed to remove yourself from the remorseless working of that diagram.

Note, however, why the Blue Pill dynamic works this way. The starting point is the lack of a strong frame; the reason nothing happens, and then the guy will “wallow in self-pity”, is because he lacks any serious frame, any real way of demonstrating value or superiority. It gets worse when he starts complaining about the lack of the same, not realising that he is simply trapping himself within that same dynamic.

As I’ve discovered, rather the hard way, there are really only a handful of categories of women:

1. Women you are related to
2. Women you are having sex with
3. Women you want to have sex with but haven’t yet
4. Women who you want to have sex with but are off limits for whatever reason- usually work- or family-related
5. Women who you never, ever, ever want to nail (feminists and Cambridge graduates, for instance)

It is permissible to buy drinks and act like an old-fashioned gentleman around women in Categories 1 and 4. For instance, I have a sister, who I love dearly. She considers me a “woman-hating Male Chauvinist Pig”, which is not entirely accurate- I am a feminist-hating MCP. She studies very liberal arts in a very liberal college town. Naturally, she and I don’t see eye to eye on quite a few things- gun control, President Jackass, taxing the rich, the French, etc. That still doesn’t stop me from spoiling her rotten whenever she comes to visit- and I don’t do that because it makes her happy, I do it because it makes me happy. It also doesn’t stop me from exercising my politically incorrect patriarchical authority and point of view whenever I think she’s getting uppity. (This happens fairly frequently.)

Break out of the BETA cycle by accepting that most women do not want to sleep with you, and will reject you out of hand, unless you give them a very good reason to think otherwise. That reason involves demonstrating your masculine superiority in some fashion. So, work out and build muscles. Go to the gun range. Learn how to drive stick. Learn how to wear really good suits really well. Read books that the majority of ordinary people have neither the time nor the intelligence to read any more. Travel. Become someone worth knowing, someone with interesting life experiences, someone with a real point of view, who is willing to defend that point of view and can do it well.