Lana from Red Ice TV has some useful thoughts to share with young women of today:

It is worth pointing out that, for a woman in her mid-thirties, Lana looks fantastic.

Yes, obviously she is making use of lighting and make-up to look her best. There is nothing particularly bad or surprising about this. Even so, it is obvious that she takes good care of herself through good diet, plenty of exercise, and a robust family life.

This is to be highly commended. Most Instathots in their mid-twenties these days don’t look even half as good as she does.

Her broader points about how to be healthy, happy, and fulfilled as a woman are excellent advice to young girls everywhere. These are things that girls need to hear these days, but unfortunately never do from either their parents or the wider Western society that they live in.

There are some harsh realities that girls need to hear from the time that they are old enough to understand that they are different from boys – and that this is a wonderful thing, a blessing from the Creator.

And it is every father’s and mother’s duty to tell them these things.

First, girls must be taught something that should be blindingly obvious: men and women are different. There is no point in pretending otherwise. Western society has gone horribly wrong in attempting to tell girls that they can be anything that they want to be, and that they can do better than the boys in all of the areas into which they choose to focus their efforts.

This is a flat-out lie.

Men and women have different aptitudes and different preferences. This is no bad thing. Women generally prefer safer, less stressful, more social, less competitive modes of work. Women fare very poorly when placed into high-stress, unsafe, difficult, dangerous, and dirty forms of work. They do extremely badly when entering realms that require extreme physical exertion and endurance – with very specific exceptions, such as long-distance swimming.

By way of just one example, I used to work in the banking industry, for one and then another big European investment bank. I regularly observed how few women were hired to work as investment bankers, traders, and middle office support staff – the hours were long and brutal, the work was extremely stressful, and the lifestyle left little time for a healthy and rewarding private life.

Many women attempted to get into the industry, and plenty succeeded, at least initially, because every big bank went to great lengths to attract women as part of their never-ending diversity drives.

Those women invariably left the sharp end of the business. Either they got sick of the hours and left the industry completely, or they went for softer jobs in the accounting and back office and HR departments. One way or another, they inevitably lost ground to more driven, more competitive, and just plain more pigheaded men.

Very, very few of those women made it to the Director and coveted Managing Director positions – this, despite the fact that the companies in question did their absolute level best to promote women and minorities into those senior positions, often at the expense of more qualified and talented men.

A girl who is told all of her life that she can and should compete with the boys is very likely to end up burned out and deeply unhappy by the time she hits 30. Any father who fills his daughter’s head with such nonsense is directly responsible for her unhappiness, and as such has failed in his primary duties as her father.

Second, girls must be taught to preserve their chastity where possible. Thanks to fifty years of the moronically stupid ideology of feminism, women have been raised to believe that they can sleep around without consequences in their twenties and have as many lovers, boyfriends, one-night-stands, and flings as they want, and then find and settle for Prince Charming in their thirties.

It almost never works out this way. It takes a long time for a woman to find, on her own, a man with whom she is truly compatible, and who will take genuinely good care of her over her lifetime. It is extremely easy for a woman to find any number of men for mere sex, but a man who is worth committing to in a lifetime pair-bond is very hard to find unless a woman is highly mature and knows exactly what she is looking for.

(This, by the way, is one of the strongest arguments in favour of arranged marriages. There is a reason why, up until the 19th Century or so, arranged marriages were pretty much the norm throughout the Western world. The fact is that very few women ever grow up enough to learn exactly what it is that they want, at least not in time for them to actually get it.)

As for the notion that women can find “a good guy” and settle down after they turn thirty… unfortunately it just doesn’t work that way.

Women are beset with a three-sided problem – a “trilemma”, if you will permit a bastardisation of the language – created by three axiomatic truths.

Axiom One: men and women do not value the same things. Women value wealth, power, and charisma in men. Men value youth, beauty, and fertility in women. The rest is merely commentary.

Axiom Two: the God of Biomechanics is absolutely real, and absolutely unforgiving. A woman who sleeps around in her twenties and looks to settle down only after thirty will quickly find that, because of Axiom One, the men that she wants to marry, will not want to marry her after thirty. Even if she does find a guy that she wants to marry, her own biology is working against her, and she will have let her most fertile years drop behind her. And it is by no means certain that she will find a man quickly enough to ease the ticking of her biological clock.

Axiom Three: sperm is cheap, and eggs are expensive. There are natural consequences for this. The most important of these is that sex has fundamentally different weights and meanings for men versus women. A man leaves a small part of his soul behind with every woman that he has sex with – but a woman leaves a MUCH BIGGER part of her soul with every man that she has sex with. There are only so many men that a woman can sleep with before her soul is used up and burned out, and cannot feel the true love and closeness needed to successfully pair-bond with a man monogamously.

This trilemma needs to be understood by every young woman. There is NO escape from it and all attempts to rationalise or excuse a woman’s poor choices are beyond stupid. If women insist on acting like overgrown children who want everything and throw temper tantrums when they cannot have it all, then they need to be very firmly put in their place by the adults.

Unfortunately, far too many fathers and husbands have failed in their roles as the adults in these relationships. As a result, far too many women have carried on believing a considerable amount of nonsense – and when they inevitably smash head-first into the unyielding brick wall of reality at about 150mph, they simply cannot recover from it.

The third thing that girls need to be told is going to prove highly controversial, even with red-pilled men, because it goes against every instinct that we hold dear as fathers. But it needs to be said anyway, so here goes:

Third, girls should be actively dissuaded from pursuing higher education wherever possible.

Yeah, I know. That one probably enrages even some of my longtime readers, who are used to my very politically incorrect beliefs and opinions.

The evidence, however, is squarely in my favour here.

The fact is that the more educated a woman becomes, the harder it is for her to find a man with whom to settle down and have children – because of the simple truth that almost no woman ever marries down.

The fact is that the more education a woman takes on, the longer she delays marriage, childbirth, and motherhood – and this has been absolutely catastrophic for birth rates throughout the Western world.

The fact is that higher female participation in the labour force has effectively served as a great excuse for men to retire early, work less, or even give up entirely on work, with disastrous results throughout the social fabric. Female participation in the labour force suppresses male wages and makes it nearly impossible for men today to support their families on just one income.

The fact is that the model of the husband being the sole breadwinner and the wife being the homemaker has all but disappeared, leaving roughly two generations of children to be raised in daycare, rather than by their mothers.

The fact is that giving women economic independence through education has also resulted in skyrocketing divorce rates. Women file for roughly 70% of divorces and the burden of divorce is disproportionately placed upon men, not women – the latter basically get cash and prizes from pulling the pins on their marriages, the former are left to deal with severe emotional and psychological trauma as well as the destruction of their personal savings and wealth.

And the fact is that men do not value a woman’s education – see Axiom One above. This is true across cultures and societies around the world and is observable anywhere and everywhere that one chooses to look. Educated women are not attractive to men.

The natural objection to this – once the objector stops screaming “MUH-SOGGY-KNEES!!!!!” in an annoying but ultimately futile attempt to distract from the core of the argument, of course – is that stupid women are not attractive either.

I (mostly) agree.

Here is the thing, though: education DOES NOT equal intelligence.

Education is, in most cases, simply indoctrination. Real intelligence shines through no matter what the degree of a woman’s educational attainments.

My grandmother barely even completed high school before she was married to my grandfather. Nobody in his right mind who ever met her while she was alive would ever have dared to call her “stupid” – she was a force of nature, that woman, and she was talented in a number of areas that had nothing whatsoever to do with her education level.

Many of the men who read this blog can tell similar stories about women in their lives, who may not have been terribly well educated but were nonetheless extremely intelligent, charming, and accomplished. And many men can also tell stories of highly-educated harpies that they dated or had the misfortune of spending time with, who turned out to be deeply unpleasant and stupid.

At this point, the most natural and emotional objection to raise is this:

“You are not a father. If you have daughters, how can you possibly justify telling them that they should marry young and have children instead of securing their futures through education and professional careers? Especially given that all of the women on BOTH sides of your family are highly educated, accomplished, and intelligent?”

I answer this as follows.

Point the first: unlike most feminists and soyboys, I do not attempt to run from truths that I find deeply personally uncomfortable. I do not expect people to agree with me. I do not even really expect most people to understand what I’m trying to tell them. I simply present reality as it is, no matter how much I dislike what I see.

And in this case, I do dislike the facts. It goes against the grain of everything that I was taught, every example that I saw before me growing up, and everything that I saw my own mother, her sister, my father’s sister, and my sister accomplish in their lives, to say these things.

It just does not matter. The facts are what they are. My feelings about them do not change anything.

And neither do yours.

Point the second: if I am ever lucky enough to have daughters, it will be my God-given sacred duty as their fathers to raise them right. Part of that duty involves preparing them for the world that is, not the world that I want. If I fail to tell my daughters the truth about this world, I will have FAILED in my duty toward them – and therefore to God Himself.

Point the third: every woman that I have ever seen who has disobeyed the “modern” advice to get an education and a job, and has instead gotten married young and finished having all of her children by the time she is 35, is happy and healthy and loves her life. Such women are sometimes bored and dissatisfied with the way that their husbands turned out, sure, but they invariably express happiness at not having to be part of the Rat Race, not having to worry about money and work, and spending their free time pursuing their own hobbies and desires.

Every woman that I have ever seen who delayed marriage and motherhood into her mid-to-late thirties has always looked tired, dispirited, and dissatisfied. This includes a woman that I used to sort-of-date last year, and a very good friend of mine who had her first child at 41 (!!!). The latter is happy, more or less, these days – but juggling work, husband, and child is extremely hard on her.

It is never pleasant for a husband, a father, or a brother to realise that he has to tell a woman that he loves that she cannot have whatever she wants. The fact that this is unpleasant, does not change the necessity of the action.