I am very pleased to present another guest poast from LRFotS Randale6, who has taken the time to jot down a few thoughts about the delusions facing Deltas, and others farther down the SSH, in the modern Sexual and Marriage Market Places. Our friend’s words serve as a stern and, I think, well-timed warning about the realities of dating and marriage in the modern West. I have appended my own thoughts on his writings down below. Once again, I thank our friend for his continued contributions to the site and community.

Every man lower than a Bravo ain’t getting screwed today (physically that is). I’ve already covered the external causes in my previous essay, but what about the internal causes? The internal causes are simple really – they are delusions, the more religious among you may even ascribe daemonic origins to these insanities. (I personally am betting on idiocy.)

Number One: Romantic love

The greatest delusion in this list is romantic love (the originator of the other delusions, to boot). For thousands upon thousands of years, the great majority of Mankind has survived and even thrived without an ounce of romance. Marriage was recognised as essentially a business transaction that gave men a cook/maid he could have sexual access to, and have children with, meanwhile the woman gets security into her old age and children.

Notice that there is no mention of romantic love at all? That is how many of your pre-1800s (and many post-1800s) ancestors got on with it. In many parts of the world (such as China and Vietnam) that is still how it works out for the majority. Get this delusion out of your head, romantic love isn’t for you.

Number Two: Chivalry

Springing directly from the the previous delusion chivalry is nothing less than full-blown spiritual cuckoldry ( and if you don’t believe me, check out this classic post from Dalrock). It literally is the pedestalisation of women as a philosophy and has infected the West in one form or another since at least the 12th Century.

Women are not the fairer sex – they are the weaker sex. Don’t be a cuck, relegate chivalry to where it belongs: Hell.

Number Three: Not all women are gold-diggers

This lie does not originate with the first two (although it has been propagated by them): ALL women are gold-diggers, the difference between them is the intensity of that instinct. Some women are satisfied with a nice house and a full fridge, others want a Paris Vuitton (or whatever the frack it’s called) handbag every week.

Accept that all women are gold-diggers, some much more so than others.

That’s All Fine and Dandy… But What Do I Do About It?

First you must reject these delusions not only externally but internally, only then can you make an honest assessment of your situation. Second you must be prepared for change… of location. To try to make things work in the West is like trying to find a jewel at the bottom of the Mekong river (one of the most polluted in Southeast Asia), nearly impossible and deeply hazardous to your health.

You need to seek out new waters, preferably a pond where your one of the big fish. You will need to settle down into said water source, you will need to learn a new language, you will need a profession/passive income source that will let you live well, and you will still need to be realistic…Oh and one more thing, whatever you do, DON’T go back to the West, you put a drop of sewer filth in a barrel of pure water and it all becomes sewer filth, do you understand?

In this kind of environment you can do much better than the West, just remember… be realistic. You are probably not scooping up a perfect 10, you could, however, get an 8 with some work (and a 7 should be fairly easy). Also scope out where you are going to live.

The reality is that Southeast Asia will be the best choice for Western men, this isn’t to say that other locations can’t work but they have their own problems. Whether it is the high standards of Eastern Europe and Latin America (which also have their own problems with the delusions) or the closed societies of the Middle East, North Africa, and East Asia (although the latter is primarily a language issue) these regions all have more issues than SEA.

You can those other regions work… but it will be more work, and I am not sure Natasha (who will morph into a babushka in her thirties) or Carmen the drama queen Latina are worth it over their SEA counterparts. Looks are indeed important…but you also have to be able to live with her without needing to take her over your knee every day.

The Didactic Line

My thanks again to our young friend for his contribution to the site, and for sharing his wisdom here. Overall, I agree with his comments. He is correct – the delusions most men at the Delta level, and below, have about women, must be destroyed to allow those same men to find happiness and successful marriages.

His point about marriage is particularly important. We cannot emphasise this enough – marriage is a BUSINESS DEAL. There is no contradiction between thinking this, and believing that it is the ultimate expression of love – just as children are both the fulfilment of biological instinct, and also the ultimate expression of hope.

Marriage is, at its core, a trade. The man trades his wealth and resources for exclusive sexual access to the woman. When you start thinking about it in these terms, you realise the Divine brilliance of God’s plan, because it is the only workable and mutually satisfactory reconciliation of two otherwise contradictory and incompatible genetically embedded needs, detailed in Genesis 3. That trade simultaneously satisfies the man’s genetic need to reproduce and pass on his genes, and the woman’s need for security and protection.

The great innovation and virtue of Christianity was, and remains, in putting an extremely powerful set of protections in place for both parties, and to provide room for romantic love. You really have to see what marriage is like in the Dirt World, to understand how far wrong things can go. Izzlam’s take on marriage treats women as nothing more than chattel, while African societies make men lazy and useless – which is why so many of them have not evolved far beyond the level of living in grass huts.

The Christian conception of marriage, by contrast, makes sure both parties get what they want, while reinforcing their bonds through a deeper spiritual connection.

Further, under the Christian approach to marriage, no woman has the right to deny her husband sexual access – which is something that sends feminists into paroxysms of utter fury. What they always forget, of course, is that the exact same rule applies to the man, who CANNOT deny his wife sexual access either.

None of this changes the fundamentally transactional nature of marriage. No man should ever get married without considering ALL aspects of the choice, both positive AND negative. It is a business deal, and as with any such deal, a man MUST assess the value of the asset he is paying for, which depreciates rapidly in value from the age of 18 onward, and only really stabilises around the age of 40. That asset’s intrinsic value comes from its ability to produce other human beings, for which the man must take responsibility, and which he must protect and nurture.

The man who is willing to marry simply for permanent access to box, but is NOT willing to sire and raise children, SHOULD NOT GET MARRIED. It is just that simple.

Moreover, it is vitally important to remember that marriage is not merely an investment into a woman – it is also the acceptance of personal responsibility, at some level, for her relatives as well. And this is where things get very tricky, very quickly.

Our friend points out that most Western men would be better off in Southeast Asia, hunting for women there. I beg to differ. I have seen plenty of White Western men marry Filipinas, Thais, and Vietnamese – few such marriages have truly lasted. The cultural values are EXTREMELY different. When you marry into a Southeast Asian family, you basically adopt her family as your own, and your own sense of identity will rapidly become subsumed to her family’s. Maintaining your own “frame”, as it were, becomes prohibitively difficult in such an environment – because Asian societies conspicuously LACK the creed that Christian ones have, wherein a man separates from his father and mother, and becomes as one flesh with his wife.

Also, Eastern European women can turn into old women pretty quickly, but in my experience, that meme is overrated. In fact, these days, quite a lot of Eastern European girls, particularly Russian ones, tend to hold up quite well even into their early forties. At 35, they are certainly nowhere near what they were at 20, of course – but compare them to any American, or, worse, English, girl of the same age, and you will be shocked to see how badly Western women age.

I will close with two final thoughts:

First, Deltas must do their level best to get over the pedestalisation of women that afflicts so many of them. Women are what they are. You cannot fix or change them. Happy wives make happy marriages – YOU, as a good man, cannot make your wife happy, if she is not capable of figuring out what makes her happy. So stop trying. Focus instead on finding yourself an emotionally stable woman who knows how to be happy in her own world. If she is a Christian who loves God and believes in Christ, so much the better – you should literally have to work to get through God, to get to her. It is worth the effort.

Second, the MGTOW crowd will tell you marriage is not worth it, and is too dangerous and risky to enter these days. That was certainly true 10 years ago, when I started getting into the red pill side of things. I consider it significantly less true today. Our Beloved and Dreaded Supreme Dark Lord (PBUH) Voxemort the Most Malevolent and Terrible, wrote an excellent piece on Sigma Game recently, in which he examined the real risks of marriage, and pointed out that even the great and terrible trial of divorce makes men tougher, stronger, and more successful afterwards – and leaves them with MORE options than before, NOT LESS.

So stop being fearful. God did not create us with a spirit of fear. He created us to be men. Cease to be afraid. To paraphrase Marcus Aurelius, do not waste time trying to figure out what makes a good man – be one instead, and let that bring a good woman into your life. Death, after all, awaits each and every one of us – we might as well live our lives, then, for they will end, and we ought to use them to do some good.

And the greatest good we can do, for most of us, is to sire strong children, and to raise them into happy, healthy, functional adults.

Find a good woman. Marry her. Pump her full of more babies than you think you can afford – and enjoy every moment of that process. Then, live your life in reverence and fear of God. Raise your children with your values and beliefs. Send them into the world as warriors and ambassadors for you and for God.

The rest is mere detail – if it does not work, take your lumps, get back on your feet, rest, heal, and then do whatever you have to do, to move on with your life.