It is Father’s Day – well, for some countries outside of the USSA, that is – and that really should get a lot more notice than it actually does. Western “culture”, insofar as anyone can call it that, treats fathers, and men in general, as nothing more than disposable entities that have no real bearing on the overall growth and development of society.
One Nick Freitas would beg to differ, and he put up a straightforward and simple video on what it means to be a real father in a degenerate age:
I think he is absolutely correct on all counts. The father-daughter bond is something very special – a girl’s father becomes the template of the kind of man she wants to be with.
But, if you remove that template, and you replace the masculine virtues of strength, honour, courage, and mastery with… well, nothing, or, even worse, destructive and untrammelled feminine energy, then you end up with the kinds of women who hook up with Chads and Tyrones and end up with body counts in triple digits by the time they leave college.
I wish that were a joke in the modern world. It is not. These days, it is quite common for young women to grow up with weak or absentee fathers, then go off to college on their own, and get run through by dozens or even hundreds of men.
Because I am a numbers guy, and I like messing around with data, I had a look some years back at the impact damage on a woman who had banged, by her own admission, more than TEN THOUSAND MEN during her career as a prostitute. The results were staggering. The amount of impact damage one woman took from that many men was so crazy, it made American football look gentle by comparison.
Fathers, do not allow your daughters to grow up like that. As Mr. Freitas points out, they need to see you as the loving but firm protector and disciplinarian – and they need to respect you, not fear you.
That latter part is an incredibly hard balance to strike. Most men fail at it. But your children need to be able to see you as someone who disciplines out of love, not anger.
This applies equally well to sons as it does to daughters. The destructive side of men expresses itself largely through physical acts, whereas for women, their destructiveness takes on a much more psychological aspect. But both sons and daughters need firm, yet loving, discipline in their lives to make them grow into good adults.
The sad truth is that most fathers do not meet these standards. Even more sad is the fact that most of us, having seen our fathers make mistakes – with the best will in the world – and swearing that we will be different when our time comes, end up making many of those exact same mistakes, plus a few more besides.
Parenting is the hardest job in the world. It does not come with well-written technical manuals telling you which bit of the code to check when something unexpected happens. It is a lifetime of worry and care that never stops until you shuffle off this mortal coil.
Because of these things, though, it is also, by far, the most rewarding job in the world.
That is why I am not part of the MGTOW crowd. As a Christian, I regard marriage and children as not merely Good Things, but necessary ones. While I understand why a lot of men are simply walking away from women and dating in the modren world, I do not agree with that course of action.
Even so, men should be very well aware of the challenges they will face when they become fathers. Raising sons, in particular, is truly hard work. While your daughters need to see you as the kind of man they want to marry, your sons need to see you as the kind of man they want to become.
This requires patience, strength, discipline, and above all, your presence. Do not make the mistake that far too many men make, by simply assuming that working long hours to provide for your family is the act which demonstrates how much you care for your wife and children. This is not sufficient.
You actually need to show the hell up.
Also, while your daughters need to know and hear that you love them and will protect them from the monsters of this world, your sons need to know that you respect and honour them, and will always have their backs, no matter what. That does not mean you never punish them for their transgressions, and it does not mean that you fail to hold them accountable for their actions. It simply means that they can always rely on you to provide help, support, and care whenever they need it.
Again, sadly, most of us will fail to meet these criteria. That is absolutely no excuse for giving up and not doing it at all.
This Father’s Day, remember: your children need you to: a) be a good man, and b) be good at being a man. Do not let them down.
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I grew up in the Liberal Meadows
Learned my lessons in conservative ghettos.
Though I knew there was danger,
I thought I’d be a changer
Bun in the end they’re both just filled with Pedos.