Reader ReactionaryTeen had a long comment to add to my recent post about killing your inner Gamma male:
I often struggle with thinking I’m a gamma, even though dogs respect me and I have a (kind of) dangerous blue collar job (cutting feral bees out of walls). I’ve started lifting, and I’m 6’+ and hardly overweight. The main source of my self-perceived gammatude is, as with a lot of guys, my dealing with women. I am what scripture would call “slow of speech and tongue.” I used to have a minor speech impediment as a kid/young teen. I’m over it now, and have taken public speaking classes so now I can talk to customers and platonic friends with no problems, but the instant I think of talking to a moderately attractive female my tongue locks up and I practically run away to avoid embarrassing myself. I honestly think I just need more practice. I was raised in a Christian homeschooling family, and while I have a head start on college (junior at 19) and a $100/hr job working with my father, I have had almost zero experience talking to girls I’m interested in. In addition to this, the church we attend is relatively small and the only girl there who I’d consider a good catch is currently in a very serious courtship with my twin brother (on the plus side, that tells me I’m not physically unattractive). The close second (physically, anyway) is on a prayer list (and meds) for cutting herself. Obviously not wife material. Any suggestions as to how I can improve my social skills with women and also find any I’d consider? I think my problem is legitimately lack of exposure. I thought about going to my college’s Christian group or whatever, but the rainbow flag pins some of them wore obviously nixed that idea.
I provide some ideas about how to get past the fear of talking to girls in this podcast, such as:
- Learning from Adam Piggott’s 28 Traits of the Modern Man;
- Gaining insights from Richard Grannon’s superb lecture at the 21 Convention;
- Changing or dropping your college major outright;
- Gaining social value and proof;
- Concentrating on your mission, rather than on girls;
There’s plenty to digest in this podcast, so be sure to listen all the way through.
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Here’s the podcast, embedded below:
And here is the Becker episode that inspired the title: