If a woman expects to be treated like a man, she can and will receive the same treatment as a man

Yes. The martial code is very simple. It teaches that any opponent, regardless of size or skill, must be taken seriously. A direct consequence of this teaching is that if a woman attacks a man, she should not be afforded any special privileges on the basis of her gender. If she initiates aggression, the only merciful thing that a man can do is to stop her- whatever that might entail- with the minimum amount of force and damage.

in today's world, it's safer to kill someone who assaults you than it is to prevent them from assaulting you.

I rather like the American way of putting this: "I would rather be judged by twelve than carried by six". Makes a lot of sense to me.

Violence is usually the last resort, but I do not believe in egalitarianism. When she states by her actions that she is not a female, I will not treat her like a female. People like to claim that it is solely physical strength that sets men and women apart… it is strength, motor reflexes, endurance, decision speed, fight/fligh/submit reflexes, and a willingness to commit violence that sets men and women apart (among a vast number of other things) If she chooses to engage my fight response, she will reap the benefits…and in today's world, it's safer to kill someone who assaults you than it is to prevent them from assaulting you.