Comments on: The Deep Introvert’s Burden https://didacticmind.com/2013/04/the-deep-introverts-burden.html Strategic Defence of the Mantle of Responsibility Sat, 29 Aug 2020 20:56:39 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0 By: Anonymous https://didacticmind.com/2013/04/the-deep-introverts-burden.html#comment-4323 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 02:15:05 +0000 #comment-4323 Good article.

Being a fellow INTJ I am stuck on (2) and trying to transition into (3).

Can I get your thoughts on something? Just say that you have been weight training for a while, doing some martial arts/other interesting bobbie, and progressing solidly in your career/study. How do you overcome the social barriers of being stuck on (2)?

I just struggle when trying to convert small talk (when I try to converse in it) to having a deeper connection/friendship.

]]> By: Didact https://didacticmind.com/2013/04/the-deep-introverts-burden.html#comment-4322 Sun, 28 Apr 2013 01:05:02 +0000 #comment-4322 In reply to Anonymous.

Hey tempest, welcome back.

For average-looking female introverts, I would agree, it's harder for males of equivalent sex rank to be introverts. For really pretty female introverts- and I've met maybe two in my entire life, if that- it's got to be worse for them. There are certain social expectations built into being a beautiful woman. Being an introverted beautiful woman has to be a difficult burden to bear.

My husband, another INTJ, went the opposite route; he finally realized that as the elder alpha (sigma?) the younger guys looked to him to start the conversations. He is actively trying to be more social & I think he is enjoying his interactions.

I've found something similar when I go out with my introverted colleagues. With them I am the unquestioned leader both at the office and at the pub, but in the presence of a more extroverted person I'll happily fade into the background. It takes a certain gravitas and authority to reach the level of a Sigma among one's peers, but that comes naturally to INTJs over time if we are given positions of responsibility and power.

]]> By: Anonymous https://didacticmind.com/2013/04/the-deep-introverts-burden.html#comment-4321 Sun, 28 Apr 2013 00:44:50 +0000 #comment-4321 I think being a male introvert is much worse because females can smile quietly & the worst that is thought of them is that they are stuck up, but men are supposed to conquer the world.

Finding the manosphere was a relief to me because I quit forcing myself to converse with strangers. It makes me cringe to think back when I tried so hard to have a bubbly personality!

My husband, another INTJ, went the opposite route; he finally realized that as the elder alpha (sigma?) the younger guys looked to him to start the conversations. He is actively trying to be more social & I think he is enjoying his interactions.

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